When life feels out of control, your body shifts into survival mode.
- Racing thoughts = sympathetic nervous system (fight-or-flight) switched on.
- Tight shoulders, clenched jaw, shallow breath = body thinks danger is near.
- Sleep? Forget it. Your body believes it needs to stay awake to stay alive.
The truth is we’ve been trained to believe we must always have answers, control everything, plan every detail, and carry burdens that were never ours to hold.
That training keeps us restless at night.
Here’s the Feminine Shift
Sleep isn’t about controlling. It’s about surrendering.
Instead of asking, “How do I make all this go away?” … the feminine asks:
- What do I already have?
- What small thing can I bless right now?
- Where can I soften instead of hold?
You shifted out of pressure to being present, allowing your nervous system to relax and be prepared to sleep.
Here’s how you can begin, right where you are tonight:
- Breathe
Place one hand on your heart, one on your belly. Inhale slowly. Exhale even slower. Whisper: I am safe.
- Bless Yourself
Instead of carrying the world’s burdens, bless yourself with kindness. You are enough. You’ve done enough today.
- Bless Others
Release what you cannot control. Imagine sending blessings instead of worries to those you love.
- Notice the Little Things
The softness of your sheets. The cool air on your face. The sound of your breath. Anchoring in the small things resets the nervous system.
- Boundaries Before Bed
Close the door on everyone else’s chaos. It’s not yours to take into the sacredness of your sleep.
